Here’s the truth that jumped out at me as I read today’s passages:
Let a righteous man strike me—it is a kindness;
let him rebuke me—it is oil for my head;
let my head not refuse it. (Psalm 141:5a ESV)
And Proverbs 27:5 was a cross-reference for this verse:
Better is open rebuke
than hidden love.
Faithful are the wounds of a friend;
profuse are the kisses of an enemy. (Proverbs 27:5 ESV)
How true this Psalm and this Proverb!
It never feels good to hear that I’ve hurt someone or done something that I deem stupid or simply been unaware of a sinful pattern in my life.
It may not FEEL good at the time, but the results are great. In fact when someone corrects me (even DH!), I know he or she does so out of love.
Why else would they take the risk?
After all, what’s my first (and second and third!) response (at least internally) to correction? Defensiveness. Blame-shifting. Anger. Self-pity. Denial. Any or all of the above.
Who wants to point out a deficiency only to get that kind of response? That kind of treatment?
What kind or person rebukes?
Not an enemy!
No, a righteous man rebukes! A faithful friend rebukes!
I think there’s too little of loving, Bible-based rebuke in the church today.
We would all do well to refrain from reacting when rebuke comes our way – and allow our heads to be anointed with the oil of loving correction, the oil that leads to holiness and to greater intimacy with God —
and greater intimacy with the friend who loves enough to share the truth.
Amos 4:1 – 5:27, Psalm 141: 5-10, Proverbs 29:26, Revelation 4:1-21. See About for what I’m up to with these daily posts. Your daily blogger, Holiday Longing (Reproduce with permission only)