In previous posts, I’ve contrasted the need women have to control with the Biblical description of the godly woman, one who is gentle and quiet —
— which does not mean weenie and mealy-mouthed, but trusting in God’s sovereign goodness so that you don’t have to be emotionally noisy around others. For more about these thoughts, see the following posts:
- Controlling? Who, Me?
- Why Am I Contentious? (Why Am I a Nag?)
- The Vexing and Contentious Woman
- Gag: Gentle and Quiet Spirit
- The Dove and the Pigeon
I stole much of what I wrote on this topic from Larry Crabb (www.newwayministries.org) and I am about to rob again, only more so. Thanks, Larry!
The word for female in Hebrew is neqebah (first used in Genesis 1: 27). The root word naqab has various meanings including “to bore or pierce,” as used 2 Kings 12: 9:
But Jehoiada the priest took a chest and bored a hole in its lid and put it beside the altar, on the right side as one comes into the house of the LORD; and the priests who guarded the threshold put in it all the money which was brought into the house of the LORD.
Larry Crabb suggests that the Bible defines a female as someone who remains open, receptive, inviting. I do understand the sexual connotations of piercing and boring (ouch!). I’m not so sure I see the connection between the Hebrew words and the notion that a woman, by definition, is inviting.
On the other hand, it kinda makes sense.
When I think of being an open box, I feel scared, vulnerable.
Frankly, I’d rather put the lid right back on and tie it to the box with a nice little ribbon. Very ordered. Very contained. Very controlled. Eeeww: there’s that word again (the word “controlled,” for those who have not read previous posts…).
And very protected.
I can invite or put on the lid and tape it shut.
I can trust or take control.
I don’t know, but the contrasts feel sort of right, don’t they?
Could God’s idea of a female, then, be a woman who invites others to enter her world (of treasures!), gently resting in God’s sovereign hand?
Contrasted with a female who diligently keeps others at bay, behind walls of her own construction, and controls her world in order to protect herself?
So, what are we trying to protect ourselves from?