Yesterday, I put up a post about divorce and the purpose of marriage (How Not to Divorce (some thoughts from a Christian perspective)). I think what I said was accurate and some friends (God bless those kind folks) left nice comments.
But I screwed up.
First, I have this idea that no one will read too long a post. Or at least, MY too-long posts. I have to keep them short enough or some folks will snooze, fall over on their keyboards, and when they wake up, they’ll have filled the screen with cccccccccccccccccs. This really happened to a writer once, I heard.
The post I wrote was really long, so I had to edit it. And I edited out all the humor, all the attempts at sarcasm, all the witty asides. I was in such a hurry to publish it (because I hadn’t yet taken down the Christmas stuff and I should have been with the kids… see my New Year’s Resolutions: Time to Write Another Blog and New Year’s Resolutions), that I didn’t re-read it to see how utterly factual and devoid of fun it was. Fact, hardly a lick of funny in it. Please forgive.
OK. That doesn’t sound so sinful. But how about when I couldn’t get the stupid WordPress editor to work right and couldn’t get the fonts to match so that when my beautiful five year old wanted my attention, I told her “STOP INTERRUPTING MOMMY.” Sinning yet?
My husband and I subsequently had a discussion about the idolatry of blogging…
There’s more. Really. When I re-read the post, it seemed smug, arrogant, etc. And later, when I read a comment someone left, I was even more mortified about the contents. So, I wrote my own comment as a sort of addendum to the blog:
It occurs to me that those who have been divorced may find this post to be arrogant or naive. I hope not! I know that in so many cases only one person is willing to undergo the trials of rock polishing. It takes two to make a marriage work. And there are many cases where the best intentions aren’t enough.
Also, many, many friends have been through the pain of divorce. And there’s something magical about how God can turn that pain (like the pain of being married — LOL!) into beauty, how He can draw us to Himself through these circumstances as well. Please forgive if my blog seems to have overlooked this fact.
And I am probably now sinning as I attempt to clean up my mess and make NO ENEMIES. Really, I am a people pleaser at heart.Well, I will stop now before I sin again.
Oh, Lord. I am glad you have a sense of humor! And that you aren’t at all surprised by my sin. Help me to take that sin both less and more seriously. Amen.