I followed you over from Glen’s blog. Hope it is okay to comment here as you seem to be working through some of the same things God has been getting into my thick head.

Yes, we women can be quarrelsome and naggy. No doubt.

Men have their own faults and I appreciate your not turning and pointing fingers at them, saying it’s because of the husband’s shortcomings that we must be the way we are. We each have our own load of guilt that must be faced.

One thing God has been very good to make clear to me is that all acts of sin spring from the root of an ungrateful desire to “be god”. When we are thankless for what He has already given to us and greedily grab for more, we are effectually attempting to do that which we have no right (or power) to do.

I would wholeheartedly agree with your thought about “control” being the motivating factor here.

Shame on us

If you don’t mind, I’d like to add you to my blogroll.

God Bless.

I have very good reason to see men that way, but by the grace of God He has taught me otherwise. And I do not see men that way at all now…although I realize it exists big time in the world. I think men are wonderful, beautiful and honorable beings.

I think this whole issue has a lot to do with our technological advancements too. I do believe God was behind some of the inventions and discoveries that changed us for all time within the last century and a half…but on the other hand they have taken us out of our natural element.

And I think the adversary uses this to his advantage (of course he would do that).

Our faulty character traits, such as contention, etc., have existed from the beginning, but now that the lines between traditional gender roles have blurred I think we don’t appreciate and need the opposite gender the way God intended anymore.

So it’s no wonder more dysfunction arises. Don’t get me wrong here…I love where we have come as women and I don’t want to go backwards…but I can see that we have all gotten carried away.

Also, now that we have use of birth control this has heightened the whole problem. Sex is no longer seen as “sacred” and something bearing tremendous responsibility and respect for other human beings.

It has enabled us to become a disposable society in that regard also. So we no longer value each other very much.

But, I still try (to change my husband…)!

I think another thing flowing from Genesis 3 is a mistrust of men. The silence of Adam exposes Eve to mortal danger. And I think it has settled into the heart of every daughter of Eve that men cannot be trusted to provide and protect. They are lazy, good-for-nothing, part-man-part-sofa, cowards who will not step up to the plate and protect their women the way God intends. Unfortunately every son of Adam is indeed like this. By nature anyway. No wonder women nag. And no wonder men either withdraw further or cut them down.

A mess, I tell ya.

I’ve heard it said that the people who are most controlling do so because they feel they are out of (or lack) control.

For instance, in raising my son as a single parent I often found myself getting controlling. (In a way, I don’t even know who this person is…because it’s not my style in my interactions with others.) I think it was fear driven.

And I have also heard it said that controlling people felt they had little control over their lives in childhood. And for myself, I felt really helpless to control my circumstances as a child.

hmm